Hi everyone,
This is my first time posting here. For context I am a live-in host in New York City. Have been hosting since last September and have had a very positive experience…until now.
The story is developing as I post. So here goes…
A lady from Denver contacted me saying that “she met a man online”, has been talking to him for months and is coming to Brooklyn to meet him for the first time. She says he is in the army (has been stationed in Turkey) and will be coming back on the day she arrives. She says they “are in love” and that he will “pack up his life and move to Denver” with her. “Stranger things have happened” she says. A few things bother me about this situation:
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She has never met a guy that she will bring to my home.
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Her language - that I feel is too melodramatic and makes me think she is a naive person. (e.g “I am so pleased you could be a part of our story.” or “I appreciate you being so willing to take a risk on a couple in love”).
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She is brand new to Airbnb. So no reviews.
So I am skeptical , but what the hell, I am also curious about how this will pan out. So against my own advice I accept her reservation.
She arrives Saturday morning . She seems nice. Her “man” is going through some “clearing process” in Ohio, so his arrival is delayed. She does not see him. Fast forward to today - Monday morning.
5:00 am - my husband gets up, goes to make some tea, sits in the kitchen to do his morning reading.
5:20 am - my husband runs back to the bedroom terrified and grossed out - "I think she has someone in there, I think they are having sex…loud"
5:45 am - I get dressed and go to bathroom to brush my teeth. Before I enter the bathroom I see that she has the door slightly open and is peeping out. After bathroom I go to the kitchen, put a pot to boil to make my coffee and come back to my bedroom. The second I close the door, I hear her going to the bathroom.
- I can hear the shower in my room, and some point there sounds as if someone banged on something or fell…
6:00 am - water has boiled I go back to kitchen, to make coffee and sit in front of my laptop. My husband joins me as well. I want to figure out if she did bring a stranger to our home. Well I won’t need to cause we realize that there are two people in the bathroom and they are not there for a shower. Loud moans, bangs , talking, sounds as if someone fell in the shower. I was appalled! WTF. And my poor husband I was more disturbed then I was.
6:15 ( I think ) - she comes out of the shower barely wrapped in a towel ( she is very big ) followed by what looked to me a like a Mexican kid quarter her size ( not that thats relevant… just to give you a sight ) also half naked wrapped in a towel waist down. And I get little half smile " oh " from her, as if she is some naughty kid who got caught doing something naughty.
6:45 - more sex ensues, which we can again hear because we are in the kitchen. We decide to go back to our bedroom.
For context:
We have a two bedroom apartment with the bedrooms located on either end of the apartment with big kitchen, living room, and bathroom and hallway with closets in between the bedrooms giving both our guests and us plenty of privacy. And we NEVER heard anyone have sex and we have had plenty of couples stay with us . And we are not old or old-fashioned.
I know this is getting really long…but bear with if got this far.
Both my husband and I agree that she has to go. This is not acceptable. So I send her this message on Air.
"Name,
Unfortunately you can not stay with us any longer. I have to ask you to leave. Today. Here is why:
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House rules in the description clearly says “no visitors”. We ( my husband and myself ) can not have you bring unknown men to our home.
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I don’t have a house rule that says “Please don’t have sex in our bathroom” at 6 am in the morning when both of us are up but that is implied. It is disturbing and grossly inappropriate and inconsiderate to your hosts.
Additionally, it may also be dangerous. We have sliding glass doors in our bathroom, what if one of you fell and broke the glass and hurt yourselves? This is not a scenario I want to have to deal with. -
Another rule I don’t have is " Please don’t walk around half naked in the common areas (after having sex in our bathroom)" but again this is implied.
I realize that you may be new to Airbnb and may not be aware of do-s and don’t-s of being a guest in a shared home. And mistakenly think that it is same as a hotel. It is not. I would suggest that you either rent an entire apartment or a hotel room.
You will be refunded for the remainder of your reservation which is 5 nights.
Check out is before 1:00 pm."
7:30 am - I call Air super-host number that was posted here. Thank you so much for posting this info. This was the first time I had to call Airbnb about a guest.
They told me that this was indeed appalling and it was a clear violation of house rules. The representative said she would contact other departments and they will arrange another stay for her. Because she needs to leave TODAY.
8:00 - I start writing this post
Am I OVERREACTING here?
Thank you for reading this long post.
Sincerely,
Disturbed host